Pain sometimes is the reason people change. It is a very powerful motivator. Getting f's for grades make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to generate enough income. Being humiliated gives us the push to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments. It may be a bitter experience, a friend's tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that may well help us get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves. To give us that "boot to butt" wake up call that drives us to action.
As always, there is no easy button! Initially we may be all fired up to achieve our desired goal, but with the countless negatives the world brings about, how do we keep motivated?
Try these A to Z tips
A - Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."
B - Believe in your self, and in what you can do.
C - Consider things from every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides. (Pretty Zenish!)
D - Don't give up and don't give in. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation your steering wheel.
E - Enjoy work as if you don't need money. Dance as if nobody?s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you'll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.
F - Family and Friends are life's greatest treasures. Don't loose sight of them.
G - Give more than what is enough. Where does motivation and self improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things.
H - Hang on to your dreams. They may dim for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force.
I - Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don't let other people to get the best of you. Stay away from toxic people, the kind of people who hates to hear about your success.
J - Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone.
K - Keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self improvement.
L - Learn to love your self. Now isn't that easy? (Maybe yes, maybe no! More on that later.)
M - Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.
N - Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game. We all have to live with ourselves, be the person you like to see in the mirror.
O - Open your eyes. Most people see things in 2 ways - how they want things to be, and how they should be, but seldom how they are in reality.
P - Practice makes perfect. Practice is about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes. Make sure you are practicing the right things.
Q - Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate. Are you going to be a quitter? Or a winner?
R - Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn't raining when Noah build the ark.
S - Stop procrastinating.
T - Take control of your life. Discipline or self control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self improvement.
U - Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood second.
V - Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on a dry land.
W - Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is grown from the roots of motivation and self improvement.
X - X Factor is what will make you different from the others. When you are motivated, you tend to put in extras in your life like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.
Y - You are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you're just going to spend it once.
Z - Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!!
Staying focused and motivated are two of the biggest obstacles to being successful in achieving your goals. Use these tips when ever you feel you are getting distracted!
Until next time,
Take care and be safe!
Mr. Don
Safe Kidz Educational Services
Functional Self Confidence
Monday
Our Life is About Choices and the Decisions We Make Regarding Self Improvement
Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment.
Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? Where is the guarantee that we would/will choose the right one along the way? Will you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?
There are no guarantees
You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it. There are no guarantees. This is one of the most important things you need to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it will be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and competent. There are too many possible outcomes, which your really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you act and react to different situations.
Wrong decisions are always at hindsight
Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong. Most us don't want to accept that our decision was not the correct way to go. While that is hard, it is more important that we learn from the mistake and not repeat it!
Take the risk: decide
Since life offers no guarantee and you never know that your decision is wrong until you after have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. (Deciding not to decide, is a decision. It just isn't one that is going to help.) It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open up more roads. It really is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice between being a lost traveller or an accidental tourist of life. But take caution that you do not make decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid. Here are some pointers that could help you choose the best option in the face of life?s crossroads:
Get as many information as you can about your situation.
It is hard to find the confidence to decide when you know so little about what you are faced with. Just like any news reporter, ask the 5 W?s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is important. Oftentimes, the reason for indecision is the lack of information about a situation.
Identify and create options.
What options do the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work. From the most simplistic to the most complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you identify options and even make more options if you encounter some difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end.
Weigh the pros and cons of every option.
Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option.
Trust yourself and make that decision.
Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose, decide, believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time.
Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.
To learn more about your journey of Self Improvement, sign up for our Free mini-course. We also have a few selected digital products that can provide you with some additional tools to help you as you move towards that person you know you can be!
Until next time,
Take care and be safe!
Mr. Don
Safe Kidz Educational Services
Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? Where is the guarantee that we would/will choose the right one along the way? Will you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?
There are no guarantees
You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it. There are no guarantees. This is one of the most important things you need to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it will be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and competent. There are too many possible outcomes, which your really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you act and react to different situations.
Wrong decisions are always at hindsight
Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong. Most us don't want to accept that our decision was not the correct way to go. While that is hard, it is more important that we learn from the mistake and not repeat it!
Take the risk: decide
Since life offers no guarantee and you never know that your decision is wrong until you after have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. (Deciding not to decide, is a decision. It just isn't one that is going to help.) It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open up more roads. It really is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice between being a lost traveller or an accidental tourist of life. But take caution that you do not make decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid. Here are some pointers that could help you choose the best option in the face of life?s crossroads:
Get as many information as you can about your situation.
It is hard to find the confidence to decide when you know so little about what you are faced with. Just like any news reporter, ask the 5 W?s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is important. Oftentimes, the reason for indecision is the lack of information about a situation.
Identify and create options.
What options do the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work. From the most simplistic to the most complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you identify options and even make more options if you encounter some difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end.
Weigh the pros and cons of every option.
Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option.
Trust yourself and make that decision.
Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose, decide, believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time.
Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.
To learn more about your journey of Self Improvement, sign up for our Free mini-course. We also have a few selected digital products that can provide you with some additional tools to help you as you move towards that person you know you can be!
Until next time,
Take care and be safe!
Mr. Don
Safe Kidz Educational Services
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