Every single day there are many little things that attack our self esteem and work to undermine our programs of self improvement. So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.
Imagine yourself as a little stick pin doll. (Like a little voodoo doll!!)Everything and everyone else around you may become stick pins, at one point or another. These stick pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which Stick pins should you avoid?
Stick pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.
Stick pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement plans.
Stick pin #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be open to it and that no matter what we do, change will happen.
Stick pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson. Making mistakes is how we learn. If we did it right the very first time, we would not have a clue as what we did to make the outcome successful, so how could we do it again? Never stop learning from your experiences.
Stick pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativity's of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst bad situations.
Stick pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company you work for, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you won't have to repeat the same mistakes. Why reinvent the wheel? If we know something didn't work the first time, why do the same thing again and expect a different out come!
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you now have my permission to build your self esteem and improve your self.”
In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right weapons to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. During the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof suit of armor of ‘self change’ ideally means that the stick pins don't get to us.
A program of functional self improvement changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our mind set or way of thinking. These areas provide us with the material to put together our suit of emotional armor!
Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out.
When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline.
Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment.
A positive way of looking at life will help you build your self esteem, and never forget, you will be the person that your young people look to as a guide to their approach to self improvement.
Until next time,
Take care and be safe!
Mr. Don
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